All Men are Dogs
… or so you’d think, right?
If a guy hangs with mostly, if not all women, he’s “gay” (and often, this is true). If he hangs with his boys instead of hanging with women, he’s “gay” (bitter chick logic). If he always up under you, he’s “thirsty.” Yet if he’s doing anything where he isn’t up under you, he’s “suspect” and/or “likely cheating.”
And no, these aren’t chicks in their early 20s saying this. These are women — thousands — in their 30s and even 40s saying and co-signing this.
If a guy has multiple kids by multiple different women… 5, 6, even 9 or 10 kids by 6 or 7 different women, he is a “dog.” If he gets married young and doesn’t cheat, he’s a “simp.” If he’s wise enough to not have kids out of wedlock, knowing he is almost certainly going to be miserable for at least two decades, “something gotta be wrong with him.” And if he’s over 35, he’s “GOTTA BE GAY.”
If a guy without his own children (and wants his own, sired from his own loins), veto rights and all, chooses to not get with someone who has three and four kids by some other man, then has the nerve to say she doesn’t want anymore kids even after hearing the man say he wants his own… only to turn and attempt to demonize him… HE’S the one with “issues” and “selfishness,” huh?
So let’s get this straight… when a man expects a woman to be at a certain point in her life (as women do with men), it’s “asking too much” and “too picky”… you don’t want to have to wait for a man to develop and grow into his purpose, self-awareness and what not… but expect a man to do so when he has fully self-actualized and the woman isn’t… and he’s “foul” for moving on?
What logic is there behind possessing standards in the areas of academics, work, business, and even sport — and having others expect such from you — but when you have standards (more importantly, BOUNDARIES) when it comes to dating and marriage, the same people attempt to fault you for doing the same?
PARTICULARLY when you abide by the standards you’ve set?
How can you expect a worthwhile man to find you if you’re always – ALWAYS – in a relationship/situationship/textingship and KNOW half the time it’s dead end?
If women “mature quicker than men” then why is it that women don’t begin to appreciate a well-rounded man who is about his shit until a) they can’t beat out younger chicks in the looks department anymore and/or b) they’re in their 40s and 50s? I’m 38 and have watched two whole generations of women waste their 20s and 30s going out of their way to get with the absolute dregs of the human male species.
And then expect the opposite results than should be expected… only to subsequently have that magic epiphany when they’re down to one or two fertile eggs (if any at all) and expect the same type of dudes who they treated like Greg Jones did Dexter Reid in 2003 — an all-time Heisman stiff-arm — to suddenly want to be interested in them when they’re no longer young, supple and fertile?
Couldn’t be me.
Pro Tip: If you are perpetually and ALWAYS “talking to someone” and are never alone, don’t expect a worthwhile man to try and compete with that other nigga (or NIGGAS, for the thots).
The quotes are excerpted from “RIB: The Truth — The Story — The Reality of Women”
Gonna help some of you out who perpetuate vicious cycles of dead end thinking and actions, then I’m going to enjoy some football.
“The disagreement between what is expected and what actually happens between both types of Imposters and Phonies is only discovered through the perversion found in their thinking. Their thinking determines how they process who they are and what they expect from men. Identifying each individual inconsistency seems next to impossible, but the identity in found in the first three letters of their secular thinking, ‘Sec.’ The college whore and the Temple Prostitute like to operate “Secretly.” They conceal their whoredom from others or only allow a select few to know the truth behind, “Whore Number One.” The connection is not difficult to make. Silly women often alienate themselves with a distinct group of Imposters and Phonies within society by virtue of certain refinements or distinctions of beliefs and practices, a Sect.
The thing about this kind of educational and spiritual condemnation is it appears to be beyond ordinary understanding or without explanation by the women secretly operating in it. This is a powerful irony normally found in a dramatic effect between retardation and sanity. The irony enables right-minded people to see and understand the inconsistency between beliefs and practices while accepting them both. Think of it in light of the Church. The church knows homosexuality goes against the Word of God, yet many Pastors condone homosexuality by marrying people of the same sex. The ironic thing about this is they do it using the Word of God to sanction or ordain the very thing that is an abomination to God. They fail to see the irreverence found in the manner in which they practice their faith.
The same lack of vision enables man to operate in irreverence, and it keeps the Temple Prostitute and the College Whore connected to Imposter, Phony, and Viper. Silly women are unaware of the inconsistency found between their spiritual and educational teachings when demonstrating feigned ignorance during the act of fornication. Most men can sense a Temple Prostitute and a College Whore a smile away because they too have become “Silly.” Most men realize each kind of Imposter and each kind of Phony contains disparate, inconsistent, or discordant parts and qualities that are not consistent with those of right-minded thinking.
College Whores and Temple Prostitutes conduct themselves in a state of falsity when it comes to experiencing true love and desires that are dominated by sexual love and sexual desire. The abnormal and persistent sexual excitement exposes them to superficial realities that work against the sum of all things that are real, absolute and unchangeable in their world. Look at how revealing educated and so-called saved women dress. Yet many of them walk around exhibiting strong animosity towards men who see them and treat them in the manner they project themselves to be, “Whores.” They do this without realizing how the impurity in their own heart has attracted this kind of man in the first place.
Eventually, the heart of a College Whore and Temple Prostitute becomes hardened and it ceases to be friendly, generous or warm-hearted in nature. The disposition exhibits an inability to empathize or understand their own contribution to the feelings they have toward men. Therefore, they begin to make statements like, “Men aren’t shit” or “All men think the only thing a woman is good for is sex.” The biggest question surrounding “Men aren’t shit” is what makes a man who is not worth shit approach a woman who thinks she is worth more? Could it be that a man who is not worth shit is attracted to a woman who is not worth shit herself? A man who is not worth shit cannot usually approach a woman of substance. Most women of substance normally would not make utterance of a statement that demonstrates subnormal intellectual development.
A woman of substance will not possess an inability to guard against common secular dangers that allows men who are not worth shit to approach her in the first place. A woman of substance would be capable of connecting the dots between her thinking and the tragic outcomes it produces in her life and her relationships. “All men think the only thing a woman is good for is sex.” What else is a man going to think when women use sex to willfully transition from a high level of moral excellence to a lower level of immorality or intellectual character for money, fame and fortune? Remember, whether a Silly Woman is in college or in church, she still aliens herself with a distinct group of Impostors and Phonies within society by virtue of certain refinements, garments or distinctions in beliefs and practices. What does this mean? Look at whom a college or church woman resembles. Look at whom her thinking resembles, and then look at whom her actions resemble and then see what kind of men she attracts. Through this resemblance, Silly Women and both types of Impostors and Phonies remain connected o the same kind of men that remain connected to the same kind of tragic outcomes. This is deep-rooted mental illness. It does not allow Silly Women to see what is evident and what is evident to the average mind of a man. The power to go beyond superficiality is lost at this point. A Silly Woman sees a “Good Look” and forgets about moral excellence or intellectual character that is needed to fashion a good man. They even forget about money. Millions of women are with good-looking men who exhibit low expectations out of life and high expectations out of women they undoubtedly live with. Yet millions of women are okay with a man with low expectations, and millions of Silly Women live with financially secure men who are not worth a “Dime.” Tragically, Silly Women remain in both types of relationships when they are often victims of infidelity or mental and physical abuse by the men they dearly honor. It is not hard to figure out why they are silly. ”
This book is longer than a Shakespeare novel. Highly recommended read.
Don’t want to be held accountable for thoughts of actions, don’t want to have to ever answer to anyone when they get checked. Will find a way to justify any and everything they do, but someone else is always the villain. Avoid these people. They will always do you in. Learn to discern and stop making bad decisions, then you wouldn’t have to be on social media posting memes because you’re bitter. And make better choices in men and women. Learn to be alone for more than two days. You can’t find the right woman while screwing everything that moves, and the right man can’t find you when you’re holed up with someone different every few weeks.
You can’t fool those with sharp discernment, anyway. You can think you are fooling them, but they’re just waiting for you to come to grips about who you truly are and acknowledge it. Women know this about men (yet still get with these Imposters) and men can know a woman is unsavory and still break his neck to get at her.
Flaunting around your “education” and material things, as if that is synonymous with your identity is pure folly. Taking advantage of weak-willed women, as if to cast a spell on them makes you a Viper. Man or woman. This post isn’t gender-specific. It applies to ALL human beings. Govern yourselves accordingly..
Some’a yah spend all day preaching, preaching, preaching, giving off an appearance of perfection (when it’s NOT about that — if you are professing to be a Christian), and don’t even recognize the very thing that you preach to others about LOL.
I knew people like this. The men were lunatics, were no earthly good, did not live pragmatic lives. The women were always in and out of fruitless relationship, with kids strewn from several of the relationships, and end up alone because they can’t relate to anyone — failing to recognize the very man that they preach to other women about when he enters THEIR lives.
These are the types of “Christians” who run people away from the altar. They think they’re doing work for the Kingdom, but are only causing people to turn away because they can’t relate to you NOR the misrepresentation of God that you project.
Side Note: If you a chick who won’t get with a dude but got something critical to say about EVERY chick he get with, you cannot be trusted.
If every time I ask you what’s new in your life, you respond “nothing,” you cannot wonder why I don’t delve any further.
I have a full life, with a purpose, vision and a plan. Where’s yours?
Where is the congruence? If you are never doing anything, but when you ask me what the deal is, I have a laundry list. The paths aren’t parallel, they are DIVERGENT.
How does any halfway decent woman make it to 40, claim she wants marriage and never ONCE get married before that point?
I used to actually listen to those sob stories, then I began to observe, and observe some more.
You got to go out of your WAY to avoid men who are worthwhile marriage partners to make it to 40 and not be married.
Either that (and/or) you were a bona fide slide all that time. It’s just ludicrous to believe that you are gonna waste your youthful years, your prime child-bearing years, your best-looking years, on no-good losers and then wake up when those losers are now passing YOU over for younger versions of you, and wake up one day thinking “Oh, now I’m ready to get married” and think someone’s either a) going to magically pop up just because you want it to happen or b) just going to be content and not have their OWN standards, for which you no longer meet.
It don’t work that way.
You had your chance with sometimes the exact same dudes, how is that fair to come back when you’re past your prime and he’s just supposed to be “lucky to have you”?
BullSHIT. And that “If you can’t accept me at my worst, then you don’t deserve me at my best” works both ways, as well.
For a purpose-driven, vision-focused man who knows what his goals are early on, you not only have your own vision and purpose, but you (if you are the right one) serve as a boost for him to reach higher heights than he ever could on his own. And vice versa him for you. Otherwise, the guy ends up sometimes taking twice as long — if not longer — to reach where he would have years ago, while you are out here partying and whoring away your prime physical years.
You don’t get to show up with this newfound desire to finally marry, with MAYBE two fertile eggs left, after he has toiled and put in all the work to build his legacy, and THEN think you’re just gonna come alongside him like that person who runs up next to the gold medalist 100M sprinter and cut in without having put in the same work to build that legacy.
This is another reason I don’t trust the motives of a lot of women, and refuse to listen to these pity parties that women my (current) age love to tell. Unless you have been chained to a raddyator, in a convent, or a psychotic recluse throughout all of your 20s and 30s, or flat out abominable looking (and I’ve seen such manage to be married, so that don’t fly either), it’s just not believable. You’ve willfully passed on several by this point.
And the very thing that many of you worry about (being left alone, lonely and having no one to share your time with when you’re older or take care of you) will happen to you ANYWAY.
Old too soon, wise too late? Or just old too soon and never wise, as is increasingly the case?
I witnessed the ONLY trifling nonsense go down on Twitter (where else?) where this dude got DRAGGED by a mob of bitter Black women when he said or did nothing negative toward Black women whatsoever.
It is appalling how the very same women who label such a guy as “lame” or “too this” or “not ____ enough that” are QUICK to jump on the same cat’s case the minute he comes up in his career, develops a modicum of fame and/or fortune, and GOD FORBID get with a non-Black woman, because somehow he SUDDENLY owes something to the very women who spent his entire adult life shitting on him.
How does THAT work???
I’ll never respect a woman who knowingly sleeps with married men. I don’t care what men do, I ain’t looking among men to see who I want to be with. I’m looking among women.
I don’t associate with dudes who cheat on their wives or girlfriends anyway, for the record.
But chicks who sleep with married men, and “talk to” (and smash) multiple dudes at the same time while playing the “interested in you” role are the absolute pits of the earth.
You have nothing if you have no integrity and only tell the truth when it is imminently beneficial to you. This either amplifies or negates looks. This is what some women don’t realize when guys (like me) who are worth a damn begin to express what it is they are looking for.
You think it’s all about looks and coitus, but that’s for when you are Humpin’ Around like Bobby Brown. An intentional man who is out to choose ONE WOMAN isn’t discerning a woman in that manner. Don’t let anyone tell you otherwise (and let us MEN tell you, instead of you inaccurately assuming that you know what drives these two distinctly different types of men — in this realm, at least).
I’d rather NOT hear from a bunch of women who have never been in a lasting (to this day) relationship critiquing — about as far off base as Rickey Henderson during his prime base stealing days as they are — my outlook on women and my choices of who I do or don’t get with or why or why not.
I should write a nice, long, detailed to the nth degree autobiography — almost exclusively focused on what took place from 2012-2017.
I could really expand it to the Summer of 1996, when I had a fateful surgery just days before I would have died without it, to the life-altering/destroying decision that was made on my life plans behind my back in 1998, which still affects everything I am dealing with today.
But on 2012-2017 ALONE, there is much that I experienced that has changed me for the better. Some don’t see it that way, because they are glazed over, asleep, blinded by the rat race and never sitting down to self-actualize, reflect and truly look at all the ugly things about them in the mirror.
It is easier to project and attempt to absolve one’s self of culpability for things than it is to face the music, be transparent and change the ugly truths about themselves.
Most people never do this. Those who do TEND to either be bedridden/homebound due to illness, severe injury/disability, imprisoned, or virtually imprisoned (as I was) due to blackballing throughout the workforce.
The effects that this had on my psyche are innumerable; and people who compare light afflictions (of their own making, might I add) to what was thrust upon me despite my best efforts (intentional non-hires, very few interviews, and sometimes kick-out rejection emails in a matter of a couple of hours after applying for jobs — which was the real confirmation that subterfuge was afoot), plus being a man — sorry, women will never truly understand what it is for a man to not work when he direly wants to and cannot get hired despite being superior in qualification to 95% of the people who got jobs over them (nepotism or not).
You can say I’ve “changed” but I really haven’t. I’ve gone back to being my true self; not concerned with trying to be “nice” nor caring what people think about me, one way or the other. How it comes off isn’t a concern to me. I am not here to assuage your emotions, no matter who you are — relative, friend or complete stranger — that is on you. What I AM gonna do is give you that raw, transparent (with tact and decorum) and demand the same integrity, honesty, anti-PC/anti-passive aggression that was forged within me during my wilderness experience.
You can suggest that I have become “harsh”, but that could not be farther from the truth. I have zero tolerance for bullshit, because I have zero bullshit. Your not liking particular things that I say or do does not qualify as bullshit. Consistent, integrity-filled living is the goal, and at times, the truths that must be spoken will offend those who are not walking in said truth. This is a universal truism in this life.
You can suggest that I am being “idealistic” or “asking for too much” in the right woman, but I’ve been with enough of the WRONG women to know what I will allow for and what I won’t. I don’t ask for anything that I am not already living, so there’s no such thing as “asking for too much” on this end.
And what is accused to be “idealistic” usually comes from a place of lack of accountability (and a desire to maintain that status quo), rather than stepping up one’s game. Women are allowed to demand the world from a man, while the same demands are merely optional when the tables are turned. Until such a woman emerges, I am staying away from all that fuckery that I see people willfully engaging themselves on a daily basis. Avoiding that fray is why I have no drama, and being filled with integrity and moving with transparency is how I MAINTAIN a drama-free life.
You should try some of these things WITHOUT having to go through what I went through. You’ll be better off for it.
Yall gotta stop making generalisations because you are HURT in your dating relationships. A lot of this shit I see flying across the TL are HUMAN TRAITS IN GENERAL — not gender-specific. Narcissism, lack of self-actualization/awareness, lack of EQ, etc. knows no gender. Fools!
Good Lord this nonsense has to stop.
Men go out of their way to date/knock up/even marry hoes when they’ve had some good ones in their sphere.
Women go out of their way to avoid dudes they KNOW are good, get with trash, incessantly complain about it, wash, rinse, repeat until they’re 45 and the light bulb goes off.
When I was in my early 20s and still somewhat naive, I used to actually listen to women in their mid-late 30s and into their 40s tell these sob stories about their interactions with men, and this supposed dearth of worthwhile men.
A lot of them are full of shit and not truly being honest with you about what THEY were doing in their 20s and 30s.
I don’t entertain that shit anymore, needless to say.
About tired of women trying to tell men how to be men.
You don’t even know how to be a WOMAN, much less how a man should comport himself with respect to women.
Don’t know why it is so difficult for women in their 40s to understand… but we all know how the female body works with regards to time limits on certain functions in this lifetime.
If I already had a kid(s), sure, I would consider getting with a woman in her 40s. They seem to be the only ones who have any sense of what the embodiment of REAL MAN looks like in action.
But because I willfully chose to NOT have kids out of wedlock, what would be the point of getting with a woman who either a) cannot physically have (any more) kids, b) maybe doesn’t want any more, even if she could, or c) are at a heightened risk of miscarriage and delivering a developmentally-challenged baby?
If the roles were reversed, I’d be getting called a pig for expecting a woman to ditch her vision and overall plan just to suit my selfish desires (which, in this case would be to abandon the vision I have for a wife, children and building upon my legacy with my children carrying it forward).
Why, then, am I verbally assailed for NOT doing so when some attempt (and fail) to make me feel guilty for passing on a woman who is 45 years old and can’t have any(more) kids — has happened several times, by the way, not one-off — when my life’s vision and plan runs counter to such a scenario?
Oh wait, we (men) are under attack from the rancid-brained sect of extreme feminism and aren’t allowed to have standards, visions, and plans. Just women are allowed.
I get so tired of being around women complaining about the ills of men in my presence, when I’m a man who DOESN’T do any of that shit. It’s fucking insulting.
Chicks will ignore a worthwhile man when they have first dibs, and then when they actually see another woman get with him, THAT’S when they want to start trying to make a move on him.
And please curve coming into my sphere talking about the ills of Black men.
None of that shit has anything to do with me, because I don’t do any of it.
That’s the problem with those of you who do this bitching and moaning about an entire subgroup of people. You don’t even have the discernment to realize when you’re talking to/dealing with one who ISN’T what you waste so much time and energy complaining about.
You can’t be getting mad at Black men who — REGARDLESS of their motives (which are irrelevant to you, unless he is specifically putting YOU down — go elsewhere with other women. The previous cat(s) did you wrong. Sure. Sorry. Tough shit. Choose better. Exercise discernment. Realize a good thing when it is in your sphere, instead of doing the very thing that not only attracts the same dudes you love complaining about, but REPELS the men who are actually what you CLAIM you want.
They either think they’re too good for you, when they aren’t, never were and can’t ever possibly be… or think they’re not good enough FOR you, which is equally untrue.
I need women’s self of steam to be brought back into balance from both these extremes.
The more I reflect, the more grateful I am for my plot in life RIGHT NOW.
Yes, some things occurred that were beyond my control which severely derailed my plans years ago — including decisions made by others for my life behind my back — and illness ruined any chance of playing college or professional sports.
Having endured a lot of things in the past few years, it added even more wisdom and maturity, prescience, and overall perspective that will buoy me when I reach my ultimate goals; something that I would not have been armed with after having a relatively easy time of everything that I sought out to do in my 20s.
Academics are easy (then again they always have been since pre-school), overcoming obstacles isn’t much of an issue, because of the fact that I’ve had to do so quite frequently in the past 5 or 6 years unlike anytime before.
I am also glad that I did NOT get married young. You hear women (who continue to assume how men think and act without being men or LISTENING to men talk about what makes men tick, which is folly) talk “I know, I know, every man has to taste something different — i.e. cheat during marriage — after a while, so I accept it.”
Why? Not every man is predisposed to cheating. And after having done all the things that so many guys fantasize about doing with women, there’s no desire to go back to that.
Which further diminishes (from ZERO) the desire to cheat on the woman who I finally realize (hasn’t happened yet) was worthy of marrying in the first place. So you can skip this block with that talk.
Can’t say that I would have believed this 10 years ago prior to the last two “relationships” that I was in, but even those situations helped mold my mentality today.
Then again, I have zero tolerance for bullshit today. I don’t bring any to the table, and don’t want any part of anyone else’s. You’ll never hear me clamoring about having “more friends.” I have enough. And I’m good being a loner. Trust me. So I’ve never been beat to be with someone just for the sake of avoiding being alone. I feel for those who think that way, to be honest.
I have never understood this mindset that “Men over age 30 with no kids and never been married are (fill in your favorite warped-minded, ass-backwards, illogical-minded, used-to-only-dealing-with-dudes-with-5-baby-muvas superlative here).”
Were you raised by jackals?
Some of us are responsible in every area of life. You should try it sometime. You might not be conditioned to think that a man having five kids with five separate women, afraid of commitment and has half the STDs on the testing panel is “normal.”
The fact that so many women think like this is the very reason I haven’t been married, personally.
I ain’t marrying someone who I KNOW is going to screw me over before long, AND try to take half my trap for a generation of life.
I watched too many kids who were 10-20 years older than me get raked over the coals dealing with child support, or having to deal with multiple crazy baby muvas and I value my freedom too much for that. I have always wanted marriage for the right reasons (i.e. the very reasons lost on so many who have been married and divorced before they even pop a gray hair), but I’ve never been in a rush about it.
To this date, 38 1/2 years of age, the mere mention of such a desire — however increasingly faint that desire becomes with each passing day — to marry elicits a “DON’T RUSH IT!” response.
Nigga! I repeat, I’m 38 (!!!) There are tortoises who would scoff at the assertion that I am “rushing” ANYTHING.
It’s more reflective of the women who think in the manner which I described above, not me. Present me with a woman who I actually find attractive, isn’t screwing everyone who shows them the slightest bit of attention, and actually understand how marriage is supposed to work, and it will fit together like the last piece of a jigsaw puzzle: rather seamlessly, relatively quickly, and easily.
The fact that this HASN’T happened isn’t me being “too picky.” On the contrary, I’ve never been picky. I know what I want. That has never really shifted. Just been living in places where such woman are at a mar-ked dearth. Particularly since leaving New York. And the catch 22 in New York is that even chicks who, even on their best days are just a 5, think they have 10,000 options every day they step out of their front doors. Simply wanting someone who shares your faith, general — very — outlook on life, doesn’t have a track record of cheating, or “country” (removing the “o” and “r”) all the time isn’t “asking for too much”, especially when those who suggest that you are doing so are asking for men to be 100 times more responsible, successful, fulfilling and accomplished than they can even DREAM of being. Yet not criticized for having astronomical standards; while those of us with BASIC standards can’t even find ONE WOMAN who meets them.
I don’t do the long-distance thing. I know they exist. I know them PERSONALLY, but i am too old to be playing that Carmen Sandiego shit. If you ain’t within a couple of hours’ drive, it’s just not going to go anywhere.
You gotta dive through a school of piranhas nowadays just to get to that ONE pearl in the clam in the bottom of the ocean. That is precisely what it is like nowadays.
Yet if I had 4 kids with just as many baby muvas, it somehow would make me more attractive in the eyes of so many of these mentally retrograde chicks nowadays.
What is life on this planet even ABOUT anymore?
It is one thing for a guy who doesn’t cook, doesn’t clean, doesn’t work, doesn’t go to school, doesn’t have money, doesn’t have a car, brings nothing to the table other than his half-way antics in bed to say, “I can’t get with a woman who doesn’t/can’t cook.”
His statements hold no weight.
Contrast that with a man who does most, if not all that — including cooking — and it should have some validity.
Even if he were to be the chief one cooking in the relationship, it isn’t a matter of ability, but willingness to do so.
Cooking is one of the many methods by which one shows love to those who they cook for. It is cathartic (the process of cooking) and there is an intrinsic joy derived from watching people enjoy and appreciate something you created for them to eat.
When you can’t — nor try to learn how, or are unwilling to — cook, where else are you demonstrating love?
Are you at all? Or is it all about material things and other flimsy, superficial things that are quite often here today and gone tomorrow?
A woman who doesn’t value herself will settle for, and worse yet, capitulate to the whims and desires of the man outlined in the first paragraph here.
Similarly, a man who values himself isn’t getting with a woman who, among other things, can’t/won’t cook, and brings nothing else of any substantive value to the table other than what he can erstwhile get from any number of women.
THINK ABOUT IT.
These TV shows are very revealing. Not the shows themselves, but the people who watch them.
Dudes out here siding with simp and sucker behavior by a male character on one show.
Chicks giving a pass to death knell (for a relationship) antics by a female character on multiple shows.
And what I don’t get is, despite these depictions (some of these shows have been running for years), you STILL comport yourselves the same way LOL.
I consider some of these shows as guides to avoid or cease doing certain things, if I am guilty of actions that produce unsavory results.
In other words, don’t get on social media with your “all men (or women) are trash” nonsense when you keep choosing foul dudes (or chicks), continue to (willfully) overlook dudes — or chicks — who you KNOW are the antithesis of those negative experiences; almost as if you relish being able to complain about the bad ones OVER simply getting with one who you know will be what you want and need.
That’s not even insanity, that is delusional and masochistic.
I laugh at the reasoning of some people nowadays.
All this “Women’s Intuition” and “Women are Smarter than Men” codswallop… BUT…
1. If your intuition is so deft, why do you still get played by garbage dudes?
2. If he’s THAT much of a Svengali that he had you utterly fooled, are you really “smarter” than men?
3. If you claim that “Women’s Intuition” is such a thing (everyone has discernment, it is not exclusive to women, not that anyone over age 12 should have to be reminded of this), then how is it that you can — in a separate scenario — KNOW these cats who have made you bitter today were garbage and still get with them?
4. What does it say about you and this so-called “Intuition” when you go out of your way to leap over several worthwhile men with their act together (but you’ve deemed to be “boring” or isn’t the subject of your thrill-seeking expedition) to get with garbage dues… then complain about the predictable outcome TO the very guys you skipped over?
No wonder so many women are confused in life, just typing that very real, and oft-occurring set of scenarios — often in the same woman’s life — was enough to completely obfuscate and becloud my brain. I can only imagine the brain of those who actually process thoughts in this manner.
Issa Rae is GORGEOUS.
Her interview on the Breakfast Club a while back got me to thinking, though. She’s one of those rare frankly honest women who doesn’t sugarcoat her past and present actions, or attempt to justify them with some garbage that insults everyone’s intelligence. I respect that. But while she didn’t express the following (my thoughts, the following) about herself, it sparked a thought about what I have observed from so many women nowadays.
So many “talk” about wanting to get married. Yet, their actions don’t align with such. The so-called “hoe phase” (many people have one, that phase lasts longer for some than others, always by choice, I might add), is one thing, but if you spend 12-15 years after high school living like that, while telling the world that you want to get married, what are you doing?
Sure, there are men who don’t care about your past (yours truly, one of them — as long as it IS your PAST, and not your PRESENT, lest we have zero FUTURE), and there are men who either don’t want kids at all, or already have them and want no more, but if you get with a man who wants kids, and you didn’t stop “hoeing” around until you were 34, 35, what are you doing?
I couldn’t care less how someone lives their life. If it doesn’t directly affect me and I’m not being violated in the process, I got no hell to send you to, and have nothing to gain by harshly judging you. However, if your actions are disparate with your stated objectives, you are going to get looked at side-eyed more so for that, than the mere fact that you are in a “hoe phase.” You don’t have that much more time to bear children once you hit your mid-30s. Who is that fair to?
And the others nowadays, who also profess a desire to marry, effectively selling (expletive) to the highest bidder. They say that, but will ignore the type of men who actually will provide that for them. They go and force something to work with someone who they perceive to be “stable” and have everything in order (before they, the woman, even come into the picture… which is objectionable to the nth degree, but I digress), and don’t dare call them out on this. Worst yet, all the stringent “standards” go out the window when they meet a man who is “ready-made” versus the ridiculous standards that they set (and don’t even meet THEMSELVES) for guys who aren’t “there” yet.
The issue with this is such:
You who think this way are averse to going through anything. You made bad decisions with men before, and now shut down anyone who remotely reminds you of those bad decisions. That’s not how life goes. First off, money comes and goes. Fortunes turn. Seasons change. Trials and tribulations are inevitable. When you go exclusively for guys who you PERCEIVE to be “ready-made” and “got it all together,” what is your course of action if (and often when) trials befall him — and by extension, YOU — are you just going to up and leave and hitch your wagon to the next gravy train of ready-madeness or are you going to realize that you’ve been going about it the wrong way all along?
But what do I know, it’s not like i don’t understand human psychology and sociology on an expert level or anything.
Hearing too much of this “Men are intimidated by my success” stuff again of late.
I will never understand it, personally.
No woman (or man, for that matter, but specifically women, because of the focus and scope of interactions between men and women “on the market”) can “intimidate” me. That’s not bluster, that’s reality.
You don’t (and most of you COULDN’T without killing yourselves) go through the shit I’ve gone through; much of which I never post about online, and be “intimidated” by someone who thinks material things define them.
It is folly.
What I don’t understand is you are an adult. You are doing as an adult should. What is there to be intimidated about?
You bust your ass for your slave master and live check to check.
Shouldn’t a light bulb go off in your head that even with all the shit (spoken and unspoken) that I’ve had to deal with, none of which was of my making or from a lack of concerted effort, that I always have money, always able to get a crib, don’t have anyone paying my way in any way, shape or form, and damn sure not living off a woman, while consistently rebuilding my credit back to the 800+ levels where I once had it when I was at my acme, that I’m PROOOOOOBABLY not moved (and, by extension, not “intimidated”) by an adult doing what is expected from an adult?
What a novel concept.
“It’s a triple threat when you withhold information, lie about it, then gaslight your partner and make them think it’s them.” – Quote from a respected PsyD.
The worst part about this is when you know the other person is doing it, and they still have the nerve to become indignant by finding a way to make YOU out to be the villain.
Anytime someone claims the, “I thought I told you x, y, z…” knowing full well they didn’t, and knowing that YOU know full well that they didn’t… then lie about it when you run your photographic and chronological memory… and then they have the nerve to turn around and try to play you with underhanded comments, you are dealing with a truly toxic person.
The worst part about such a person is that they are never accountable to anyone, they don’t want to be held accountable for anything, they always run around talking about how they “don’t care” about anything or anyone’s opinions, and even purport themselves to be so “enlightened” and “open-minded,” when, in reality, that open-mindedness is limited to that which suits their agenda and their level of comfort.
Step outside of that, and their minds close quicker the local bank at 6 PM on a Friday.
I KNOW I’m preaching today. Work out your own feelings elsewhere though. Don’t stare at the screen with tightened jaws. I’m just the messenger.
Oh, and it’s about time you DO start caring (for the “don’t care” crowd).
You can have a million superficial things in common with someone, but what lies at the core of you both (faith, ultimate life’s passion, etc.) will either make or break any relationship you may have.
I liken it to someone attempting to squeeze into a jacket that is too small for them.
You can zip it up to a certain point, and those two sides can be in lock step and harmonious, but when you don’tshare those core beliefs or the same faith, you end up on divergent paths… just like when you squeeze into that jacket and it’s too tight and eventually the zipper that connected the two sides comes off track, and the sides drift apart.
It’s easy to find someone to coexist with and MAYBE make it last (though invariably growing apart as time goes on). The RIGHT one can sometimes take longer to realize, because they don’t always flash outwardly signs illustrating such… particularly to those who utilize practically zero discernment in life.
No, I don’t “think too much,” it’s called exercising wisdom.
Judging by some the long line of poor decisions you make in dating and marriage, you don’t think ENOUGH.