Age Ain’t Nothin’ But a Number, But…
Aaliyah made the saying more popular in 1994, when she groaned “Age Ain’t Nothin’ But a Number”, but then again, she was being lured in by a lothario who was in his late 20s, when she was fresh off celebrating her 15th birthday, so make of that what you will. However, outside of cases where alleged statutory rape occur, like the aforementioned Aaliyah situation, the statement often has merit.
It is a lot different for someone who is in their early to mid-20s to commiserate with someone in their early to mid-30s. Generally speaking, there isn’t all that great of a contrast, although there is an obvious divide in life experience and character development through perseverance through trial and tribulation. Even more so, one person being in their mid to late-30s and dating someone in their mid to late-40s isn’t that big of a deal on the surface. Generally speaking, age is only a number, as one’s age cannot necessarily denote one’s mentality, previous life experience and the wisdom that he/she has attained as a result.
Ultimately, it is all about what the couple wants collectively, and what the expectations are of one another. When the focus is strictly upon companionship and friendship, age really does not matter much at all. When it comes to shared experiences, it is a lot more difficult for someone to “take it back” with someone who is 10 or 15 years (or more) younger than them, as that person was in diapers — if not in the womb, or in some locked-away safe at the sperm bank — when the older person was in his/her halcyon days as a kid. Life’s memories are very poignant, especially when they have been shared first-hand with someone that you actually grew up with. Even if you did not grow up together, and you meet someone later in the path of life who is your age, you can immediately begin to talk about things that took place when you were both eight or nine years old, and remember how things were. This can be one of the areas of common ground from which things can take off. The beautiful part is that it is not necessary for the development and sustenance of a healthy, long-term relationship or marriage, so there is no “right or wrong way to love someone”, as Keith Sweat used to yelp about on his debut album.
Age truly is but a number.