The Missing Key…
The key isn’t to just get them, but to keep them… and not become complacent. Complacency comes from becoming settled in one’s ways, then drifting apart, and eventually the (mandatory and effective) communication that allow for a relationship to maintain its viability and remain afloat is the only thing that can save matters.
Sadly, most men are incapable (or unwilling?) to express whatever their concerns may be, and just give up, instead of articulating the concerns. Others know what the concerns are and run away because it is “easier” in their minds.
Sadly, many women expect men to read their minds, and often say one thing, but are really thinking/desiring the opposite, which leads not only to confusion, but no chance of resolution; when considering the aforementioned traits that most men exhibit.