Nowadays, with both men and women marrying later (if at all) than ever, there has been a rise of occurrence where older relatives and counsel constantly ask people who are into their 30s and not married, “What are you waiting for? Why aren’t you married? Is there something wrong that we need to talk about?” Those may have been viable questions to ask 50 years ago, or even as recently as 20 years ago (an entire generation ago), but things have changed greatly from a social standpoint in the years since. Relations between men and women are more strained, complicated and misguided than ever.
Although the necessary areas of equality for women on the same plane as men have mostly been realized, there have been some undesired side effects (which have nothing to do with women merely attaining their rightful place in society, unlike some of the unfounded practices that predated recent generations) that have actually done more to make relationships — and therefore, marriage — even desirable, much less a desired outcome.
Developing a loving relationship that leads to marriage is less of a PIG PICKING CONTEST and more about two cognizant, mature individuals choosing each other, and deciding to grow together as one, while helping each other fulfill their respective purposes in life.
Seeing the number of divorces is not an “excuse” for whoredom and shunning marriage. Realize the reason for most divorces being the lack of communication and complete lack of understanding of what marriage is really all about (i.e. not the rampant selfishness and superficiality that comprises most of these “marriages” that we all see), and not because there are suddenly “no good men” or “no good women” remaining in the world today.
It was almost “expected” for people to be married before they were 30, unless they were mentally ill, or some sort of eccentric. To some nowadays, those who get married before they are 30 now receive that type of reaction. Why is this so? Rather than write an op-ed piece (and also to see who actually reads beyond the headline and immediately begin responding), I’d rather my readers offer reasons that they believe this phenomenon is prevalent more than ever nowadays.
Go for it…