Being Cocky is Fun, These are Versace Air 1’s!
I always like to watch how peoples’ comportment around universally-observed holidays. People get really out of character (or is it their true selves emerging without concern for repercussions for nine out of 365 days a year?)
That’s random. Given that today is “Halloween”, I feel like every major holiday from Valentine’s, to Mother’s and Father’s Days, 4th of July, Memorial and Labor Days, Halloween, Thanksgiving and Christmas exemplifies this.
At any rate, this column is all about doing what it takes to land a woman or man, and continuing to do so in order to keep them.
Some people take their significant others for granted once they feel as though they’ve hooked them (yes, men let themselves go and take their girlfriends/wives for granted after a period of time, just as much as women notoriously do it). It is not wise. Even if the “neglected” person in the relationship doesn’t feel as though they are missing affection and attention, there comes a time when the temptation to look elsewhere for both of those attributes supersedes fealty to the significant other in the relationship. Don’t believe it? Go to an office working environment where women outnumber men 10:1 in some cases — and non-married men 12-15:1. Note how many lonely women at home begin to draw attention from guys and all of a sudden begin to dress sexy and seem abnormally excited to get to work when she was dying to find another job or get fired so that she could get unemployment.
I’VE SEEN IT, AND BEEN A BENEFICIARY OF IT — ALBEIT I NEVER KNOWINGLY SERVED AS AN ACCOMPLICE TO A CHEATING WOMAN.
Same thing with guys. But you already knew that.
People wear masks. Let’s face it. They do what they think they need to do in order to lure that woman or attract that man, but if it is not genuinely who they are, they’ll eventually become comfortable if those actions succeed in them landing the object of their affections. What happens from there is the REAL person comes out and the “object of affection” begins to feel duped. If they don’t already feel betrayed or resentful, they will definitely realize the change and look elsewhere for what they thought you really were in order to land them in the first place.
IT GOES FOR BOTH MEN AND WOMEN, EQUALLY.
Earlier tonight, I had a status that said, “Being cocky is fun”. Indeed, it is. When it is truly who you are. I see guys put on a macho front and do what they think it takes to attract women, then turn into pantywaists and act like old men who never go out with friends and stay home seven days a week at age 26.
Just be who you are. You know what it took to get her/him, if it is truly who you are, then you’re good money. If it’s not, it will show. Simple as that.
SIDE NOTE: Cocky is NOT synonymous with ARROGANT or “FULL OF HIM/HERSELF”. Much like quietude and shyness can be INTERTWINED, one does not beget or denote the other. Some arrogant people ARE cocky, but just because someone is cocky does not mean they are arrogant.
But at the end of the day, on a personal note, I love being me. I’m fully comfortable in my own skin and my own personality. I’m not abrasive, although I am an acquired taste for some people. What have you. Not my concern. You can always turn off your station, or “stay from ’round me” and whatever helps you sleep at night. But I’m who I am right now and that won’t change two years from now, 10 years from now if/when I even get married, or when I’m 75.